Sunday, March 12, 2006
white girlson friday i meet one of my guy friends and another one of his friends for dinner at espn zone. we chatted it away and had a good time. i found our conversation to be sooo thought provoking i decided i need to share it with other black women. before i start i am going to put a disclaimer out there. i have no issues with interracial dating. i am not bothered by seeing these kinda couples in the least bit.
my friend's friend, who is a black man is in a relationship with a white woman. he said that he loved this chick and he apperiacated certain qualities about her. "qualities???" i told him "what do u see in her that you can't get from any other woman?"
he responded to my question by saying (a) she is from a good family not a broken one so she has a better outlook on life (b) she is classy and more openminded (c) she doesn't have the baggage and the issues and (d) she excepts me for me and challenges my mind but still lets me be a man.
ummm... of course i had a comment for all of these reasons because i can name more than twenty black women who have the same stuff going for themselves. my friend said he has another friend who only dates white woman. why? because he likes rich girls who can take care of him and he grew up going to prep school with only white people. why does it seem like black men these days want a woman period to take care of them?
i am not sure what to say about this. i do however get upset when a black man says he is sick of black women and thats why he choses to date outside his race. woman are woman period!!! it does matter what color they are. i told the guys at the table that i thought most of these issues and qualities were more socioeconomic and not race related. i know tons of sistas that go over and beyond to cater to there man (me included) and this includes paying bills for them, buy them stuff and paying for way too many diners and dates. i personally think that there are more black men dating white women because white girls throw themselves at men period and classy sistas (not hoodrats) are a little more reserved. we were taught to let a man chase us not the other way around. so they get these guys because of their aggresive nature when it comes to the opposite sex.
other note. i think that less sistas date white men because white men are scared to approach black women. i had a interesting convo sometime ago with a white guy who prefers black women. he said that typically he approaches black women who are in mixed crowds or black women that he is comfortable with and seem pleasant (basically whitewashed black chicks). he said its hard to tell if a black girl will holla back sooo he is more cautious with the way he approaches black women vs. white women who he says are always down.
i can honestly say that it saddens me that these brothers have turned there back on alot of us. we love them, cherish them and hold them down when noone else will. why isn't that good enough? anyway give me your thoughts. what do you think?
