Tuesday, January 02, 2007
getting growni have never really felt like an adult since i have turned 18 until today. today i got a letter in the mail saying that my mortgage was bought by another company and my january payment is due to countrywide mortgage instead of my former mortgage company. i was just about to make my online payment. so i call my mom and ask her what to do. she says... handle your business and call the new mortgage company and ask them where to make your payment and for your new account number.
so i look up countrywide's number online and call the company. the lady of course couldn't find my mortgage... so she says "is any one else on this account?". wow, for the first time in my life i felt alone and grown. i began thinking about my rents and how when someone asks my mom that question she has a husband's social to give. matter fact, now that i think about my mother has never lived by herself ever in life. anyway, i don't know why that question made me feel like an adult. i guess it made me realize that i actually have grown folks obligations that have to be paid ever month and that i alone am responsible for it.
i have never been one of those people that any of my friends described as responisible. i mean no one will let me babysit their dog for a weekend. so its crazy that i'm 25 and i am officially grown. i have no more new semesters to look forward too. i am in the real world now and officially parting with the grown & sexy.
cheers
Sunday, May 21, 2006
SSF-Sexy Southern Flame
Hey, guess who this Fly chick is...
Me, da SSF, Sexy Southern Flame.
Kinda cheezy, huh? So what, it's me!
Don't I look good! Well, I took this picture on the way to a fight party to see Fab vs. Pretty Boy Floyd. Of course, you should already know that PBF defeated Zab. PBF is my future B.D., if you know what I mean...he just don't know it yet.
Well, I gotta go, but before I leave, do me a favor....
Say it with me, "Cute in the face, slim in the waist, PHAT in da Ass. Do you want a taste?!
LOL, one time for Trina....
Sizzlin,
Southern Flame
Tuesday, May 02, 2006
Bring'em OUT Bring'em OUTBRING'EM OUT BRING'EM OUT......ITS HARD TO YELL WIT A DOUGHNUT IN YA MOUTH.
Ok ok so I haven't laid it down in a while....I mean li-ter-al-ly!!!!!!! Well, I am back, fine and on the go. Its me the Southern of ALL Flames. Yes, my light is burning stronger than ever and I am at ease with most things in my life. I am on a reading rampage and have started my own little book club with me myself and I. A Purpose Driven Life is a great book so far and it causes me to actually wonder about my true purpose. Am I here to just choose a career and live my life or am I here to please HIM. Its crazy. There is something that I must admit about myself. When things get hectic and I cannot control the things going on in my life, I try to control my weight. I mean,I dont throw-up or over eat, I just workout like crazy. I let my frustration out on the machines and next thing I know, I have 100+ pounds on the leg press, sweating like a hog on a hot summer day. I get lost in my own world of trying to excrete externally the stress that I am harboring internally. I cannot say whether this is a problem or not but I'll see... What I do know is that I am praying it.
Today, I said that I was kicking his so and so out of my life for good. I know, I know that I have said it a thousand times before but this time I mean it. I called him last night at 3am, cursed him out on his answering machine (I reviewed and erased at least 10 times, and sure I was a little tipsy but so what) and I let the truth flow out of me. This is my new start, I changed my number to my cell and I am through with him and every other bug-a-boo.
Healthwise, I have lost 15 pounds of fat. I weight train so I know that I have gained muscle mass. Right now I have 30% body fat, which is not too bad. I would rather be about 24-25%. BUT I DONT WANT TO LOSE THE BOOTY!!!!!! LAWD knows that I Black woman feels deserted without the ability to "look back at it, look back at it." That is FLorida music for ya BAE-BEE!!!! I can see the difference between my body 4 weeks ago and now. I had and have a very nice shape. I mean "DA BOIZ (men) LIKE IT!"
-sIZZLIN for sum summer fun,
Suthern Flame
Saturday, April 29, 2006
It Ain't Easy Being G.R.I.T.S.Evolve.
Its a word that constantly sits on the tip of my toungue.
What does it mean to evolve.
I'd argue that evolving is a process that runs directly parallel to our maturation.
To evolve
I must mature.
And hopefully as we mature...we'll also evolve.
We're all either 25 or on the brink of it.
Are we still doing the same things that we were doing a year ago...
a month ago...
a week ago?
Tuesday, April 11, 2006
Achieve it!Hello to all,
I know we started this blog to transition into the quarter life era and to make life changes.
I am proud to say I say a goal and I have kept up with it. I am really proud and shocked in my perseverence in the nutritional and physical goals I have set. I have lost about 15 lbs and I have changed my eating habits. I am jogging 3 days a week and even sneaking in a fourth day periodically. I would have never believed that I would have accomplish such a task. I have to say I couldn't have done it without my two running partners. I told them about the running schedule a few months back and they immediately agreed to embark on the journey. Every week we told ourselves we wouldn't make it to the next week, but we did and we made it to the end of the 9 week program. We have kept it going with a 30 minute jog and are covering more ground. My next step is to use a waist belt and add some weight who knows how that will go! I am confident that I will attempt it for at least for 2 weeks. The summer workout plans include toning and abdominal workout. I plan on looking great for my quarter life entry!!!!! Any one with workout tidbits or meal ideas please share.
Sunday, March 19, 2006
Breast Cancer WalkHello blog peeps,
I just wanted to inform you that I am participating in the Breast Cancer 3 day walk on Ocotber 13-15, 2006. The walk is 60 miles and I am trying to raise $3, 000. I am looking for donations and they are tax deductible. Here is the link to my page. I'll keep you posted on how the fundraiser is going.
Sunday, March 12, 2006
white girlson friday i meet one of my guy friends and another one of his friends for dinner at espn zone. we chatted it away and had a good time. i found our conversation to be sooo thought provoking i decided i need to share it with other black women. before i start i am going to put a disclaimer out there. i have no issues with interracial dating. i am not bothered by seeing these kinda couples in the least bit.
my friend's friend, who is a black man is in a relationship with a white woman. he said that he loved this chick and he apperiacated certain qualities about her. "qualities???" i told him "what do u see in her that you can't get from any other woman?"
he responded to my question by saying (a) she is from a good family not a broken one so she has a better outlook on life (b) she is classy and more openminded (c) she doesn't have the baggage and the issues and (d) she excepts me for me and challenges my mind but still lets me be a man.
ummm... of course i had a comment for all of these reasons because i can name more than twenty black women who have the same stuff going for themselves. my friend said he has another friend who only dates white woman. why? because he likes rich girls who can take care of him and he grew up going to prep school with only white people. why does it seem like black men these days want a woman period to take care of them?
i am not sure what to say about this. i do however get upset when a black man says he is sick of black women and thats why he choses to date outside his race. woman are woman period!!! it does matter what color they are. i told the guys at the table that i thought most of these issues and qualities were more socioeconomic and not race related. i know tons of sistas that go over and beyond to cater to there man (me included) and this includes paying bills for them, buy them stuff and paying for way too many diners and dates. i personally think that there are more black men dating white women because white girls throw themselves at men period and classy sistas (not hoodrats) are a little more reserved. we were taught to let a man chase us not the other way around. so they get these guys because of their aggresive nature when it comes to the opposite sex.
other note. i think that less sistas date white men because white men are scared to approach black women. i had a interesting convo sometime ago with a white guy who prefers black women. he said that typically he approaches black women who are in mixed crowds or black women that he is comfortable with and seem pleasant (basically whitewashed black chicks). he said its hard to tell if a black girl will holla back sooo he is more cautious with the way he approaches black women vs. white women who he says are always down.
i can honestly say that it saddens me that these brothers have turned there back on alot of us. we love them, cherish them and hold them down when noone else will. why isn't that good enough? anyway give me your thoughts. what do you think?